Dear me,
I guess there is a thing or two I learnt about love.
In order not to get hurt don’t see
I should think I’m a fool for thinking this way but we sure do learn the hard way; you don’t see you don’t get hurt and when I say don’t see, I don’t quite mean literally get blind or lose your vision.
My best explanation would be:
When you love someone you see more, more than anyone does,
the pains,
the good,
the bad,
the beautiful,
the ugly,
Everyone has a cupboard full of skeletons and when you sign up to love someone, that is what you see, you open that box full of skeletons that was not suppose to be out and you deal with it (this in no way means tolerate abuse or disrespect).
You learn to love those skeletons piece by piece, joint by joint, bone by bone, you see the unpleasant that no other person has the chance to see and sometimes if you allow yourself to see you’d eventually turn over the contract and walk away but if you truly do love the person then I guess the saying that love makes a fool out of a person does apply.
In order not to get hurt you don’t see.
Because when you love someone you are not blind to the faults you rather see more and because you see more you are willing to see less.
To some extent I would have agreed that love is blind but on reflection love never made me blind to your shortcoming rather I drew closer because I wanted to fight your demons with you I wanted to be wings that could carry you to safety but getting too close got me scorched.
I saw more and I was willing to learn to love you the best way I knew how
Flaws and all .
Which brings me to the second thing love taught me;
Love is “In spite of, even though, anyways”
Truth is fairytales. have a way of making us believe loving someone is someone you have that perfect ending with ,
like the same things,
do the same stuff,
prefer the same song
take a waltz through a ball room and
complete each other’s sentences
Basically comes into your life and all your troubles end and you live happily ever after
The day reality gave me a call ,I really was knocked off my feet.
Fairytales are half truths and lies
There are times you meet someone who has the same preferences as you alright and there are times you don’t and here is the truth I learnt .
We humans are so full of faults yet we fail to realize our own faults, yet when you love someone you accept you are not with them because of the ‘ifs’ or the “because” but because even though a mistake was made, in spite of our disagreement, despite our fall shorts I have come to terms with who I love. Its going out of our comfort zones to appreciating and accepting that aside all the faults I do love you, love is not about happy ending and rescue missions like what we’ve been told fairytales are but in a different light maybe fairytales are about someone accepting you completely just as you are , you work on your shortcomings together but you fully accept and acknowledge the difference that is present, you try to conform and accept but not forcefully change that person because when you force that person to fit into who or what you feel is ideal for you; you ruin your own chances. But most importantly you as an individual should accept, appreciate and love yourself well enough before you can fully respond to the love others give you.
Charity begins at home and if you fail to love yourself you fail to love the other person the right way because you failed to accept who you are.
Love is the absence of judgement but not the absence of constructive critics to build each other up.
With love,
Your past self
This is a series I started a while back in 2019. I’m not sure I’m of the same views again, but I do hope you enjoy reading.
